My dear family
members, friends, acquaintances nearby and far away,
I put a lot of
thinking as to whether write to you about the referendum in October in Hungary.
Finally, since it is there in our conversations, and in my virtual and offline
manifestations anyway, I decided to do it. I don't want to sweep anything under
the rug.
In my opinion,
since this referendum is to take place, exercising your rights as a citizen is
of the utmost importance, therefore I can only encourage you to go and vote. If
you are not going, don't do it for reasons of comfort, but out of personal
conviction (see: civic awareness). You certainly know the question that you
need to reply to.
Do you want the
European Union to be able to mandate the obligatory resettlement of
non-Hungarian citizens into Hungary even without the approval of the National
Assembly?
I could write
about how manipulative this question is, or that the EU membership means not
only EU funding, but also obligations. I could quote from the book of Stephen I
of Hungary, Admonitions. I could remind you of Jesus (since Hungary is
supposed to be Regnum Marianum). I could go on explaining that ‘Brussels’ is a
city, or that the EU is a club of which the citizens of Hungary want to remain
members of, and the situation is not as simple as ‘Brussels’ makes up something
and then forces it on everybody. I could tell stories about how the EU is not
even close to being perfect, but this is as much the responsibility of the
representatives as of those who elect them. I could bring articles about the
Hungarian Investment Immigration Programme, and how if someone has 300k euros
is considered a 'good' immigrant, may they be Russian, Chinese, or Arab. I
could bring self-contradictory citations from Viktor Orbán's speeches.
Furthermore, I
could write about how disgusting it is that the Hungarian government campaigns
against refugees by accusing them of raping women, while the Hungarian
government hasn’t even ratified the Istanbul Convention, when at the same time
at least one woman in Hungary dies every week as a victim of violence against
women; or that how appalling it is that it is widely tolerated that a (many)
university professor(s) make(s) woman-bashing statements. I won't do any of
these. This is the task of journalists, and I am sure that you carefully looked
at all the pros and cons before voting.
I would rather
talk about the fact that voting (and not only on October 2nd)
is a responsibility. The responsibility of each voter. Yours.
I never kept it as
a secret that since December I live in Germany and my partner is a Syrian
refugee. I never kept it as a secret either when I went to volunteer, neither
did I do with my opinion. Maybe some of you think that because of being in love
I am biased. I would like to calm down everyone: I am in love, but I am a
rational person. You (should) know me.
I know the
arguments and the problems regarding the challenges of integration, national
security, and cultural differences. I have never swept them under the rug, but
this post is wittingly not about these issues.
I have a personal request.
I would like to
ask you that (if you decide to go and vote) when you enter the voting booth,
think of me for a second. Do you want me to go to a country with my love, A.
for a visit where he is despised and denigrated? And with him, me, since I
am considered a traitor of my country and of my nation. Do you want people to
call me a ‘migrant-caressing whore’ (true story)? What would you do if
in a gathering someone would start attacking refugees as a whole? Do you really
think that all Muslim asylum-seekers are potential terrorists? Or there are ‘exceptions’
like A., who is a ‘good migrant’, but the rest is really dangerous? Would
you make a stand (even in my absence), or would you be silent and thus,
complicit?
Do you want to
live in a country where a friend/family member could be treated with contempt
by the public because of a personal choice? Or where an ethnic or religious
group can be stigmatized? How do you know that you are not the ones to be on
next?
There was another
referendum in 2004, and I, lucky bastard, was affected by that as well. It
didn't end well. Those who knew me back then, know that I never asked anyone to
tell me how and why they voted as they did (or if they went to vote). It is
none of my business. I will do the same now again. It is not my concern how XY
voted.
I will never ask
anyone about their vote. It is none of my business. I would like to make this
crystal clear before anyone accuses me of grouping people according to yes, no
and invalid ballots.
But do not delude
yourselves into thinking that you can vote no, but you bear no responsibility (and you can shift it on to
the government, Brussels, the migrants, the Democratic Alliance of Hungarians
in Romania, the churches – I could go on). Those who vote no, should know
that every single atrocity, every single manifestation of hatred after October
2nd will be done based on their authorisation and with their consent. I am
not holding it against you. But my and A.’s physical safety and our peace of
mind is more important. The stakes of this referendum are a lot higher than of
the previous one. This is about my family, our life, our human dignity, and
in this case I will put us first.
I am at a breaking
point (and so are we all, as a nation). I accept the responsibility for it. All
I am asking you is to accept responsibility for your own decisions, your
actions and their consequences.
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